The Chinese version is after the English one.
中文版本在英文版本下。
This prayer focuses on blessing children whose emotional needs have been overlooked, using Psalm 103. Before using this prayer, it is recommended to first pray for yourself with the “Prayer for Neglecting Child’s Emotional Needs (Part 1)”. If you have a Bible, you are encouraged to open Psalm 103 and read it alongside this prayer.
Blessing for Children Whose Emotional Needs Were Neglected:
Dear Heavenly Father,
My heart, praise the Lord! My intellect, emotions, spirituality, and will, all praise His holy name! Do not forget all His benefits! I pray that my child, ____________(name) in his/her intellect, emotions, spirituality, and will, awakens to the abundant grace of the Lord throughout his/her growth process.
My child may be experiencing emotional pain, unable to express it, leading to behavioural problems or character deviations. They may have caused resistance or denial from adults, or even punishment, resulting in a stronger opposition from him/her, creating a vicious cycle. Lord, even if he/she speaks disrespectfully or behaves impurely, and even if parents find it challenging to fully accept and embrace, I know you have deep compassion, and you will forgive him/her. Please touch the hidden wounds behind him/her, heal the traumas in his/her hearts. His/her mind may be entangled, difficult to trust, resistant, chaotic, helpless, masked, bitter, anxious, fearful, angry, suppressed. You will redeem him/her from the darkness of his/her mind; you will crown him/her with your mercy and compassion, like a crown adorned with jewels. Please prepare all the necessary resources for his/her journey, including loving, trustworthy individuals who can assist and care for him/her. (I pray that I could be one of them.)
Lord, I understand that each child has specific key ages for their growth tasks. Perhaps he/she has missed that golden stage, or he/she is currently being disturbed during the golden stage, causing me great concern about his/her future growth and the possibility of irreversible damage to their character. Every time I think about this, my heart squeezes as if being juiced. However, in the eternal life of God, this life does not begin after we die; it starts from the moment when you touch my child, and he/she shares in your life, energy, and glory, directly illuminated by the light of eternity. Lord, you have not ceased creating my child; every day he/she lives, he/she will undergo the continuous moulding of the Lord, as if being born again. I, as a father/mother, in the name of Jesus Christ, ask God to enter his/her life, manage, renew, transform, and lead his/her growth. He/she will grow under the care of the Lord, robust, strong, and steady, and his/her life will become a blessing to others.
Psalm 103 also says, “The Lord works righteousness and justice for all the oppressed.” Please treat my child with justice. I surrender the power of judgement to you. I may have self-blame and guilt, but I no longer judge myself. Please instruct me on what I should do. If someone has harmed my child, please judge and deal with them fairly. If the person who harmed them is someone I love (such as a spouse, partner, son, daughter, relative, etc.), I plead for your mercy. If there is responsibility to be borne, help me let go, not to protect the perpetrator excessively, causing my child to suffer secondary and tertiary traumas, falling into the mental bondage of being despised and abandoned.
Lord, in the past, the emotional needs or traumas of my child have been neglected by his/her closest parents. Prolonged loneliness, grievances, and disappointments may have led to self-doubt, engaging in self-dialogues such as “I am not worthy of love,” “No one truly loves me,” “There is no one trustworthy in this world,” “Only those who are powerful will prevail,” “I have to be the best, the most obedient, and the strongest to earn others’ love,” and so on. Oh Lord, in the name of Jesus Christ, I command these lies to leave him/her! Please open his/her heart to the laws of the Kingdom (refer to another article “Believing in Jesus is Like Changing Nationality?”), allowing him/her to rediscover your love: you are merciful, gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love. You do not always accuse, and you do not keep your anger forever. Even if we have faults, you do not treat us according to our sins. How high is heaven above the earth, that’s how great is your love for my child ________ (name). How far is the east from the west, you have removed ________’s transgressions from them! Even if parents do not know how to love him/her with complete love, you, God, love him/her fully in this way.
You know the true self of my child ________ (name), and you love him/her according to his/her true self. Regardless of how he/she presents him/herself, whether likeable or unlikable, lovely or annoying, Your love penetrates the essence of their lives. You know his/her inner vulnerability and many tangled threads that he/she cannot express, and You regard them as precious and honourable.
Love in the world is often temporary, and even parents may run dry or be helpless at times. However, in the hands of the eternal God, there is eternal assurance. Even if my child cannot feel the Father’s love and justice due to past experiences, feeling that God is distant and unreal, the love and faithfulness of God never leaves him/her. May the Holy Spirit guide him/her to know God and fully experience God’s great love.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I bless my child ________ (name), and may the love of the Lord belong to them from everlasting to everlasting. I also bless his/her descendants, who will be blessed in the name of the Lord my God. In the name of the Lord, I pray that pain will stop with this generation, and his/her descendants will prosper in the Kingdom of God. My family and I will praise the Lord!
I pray all this in the victorious name of my Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
In the future, this website will provide prayers for various traumas experienced by children, such as neglect, lack of companionship, developmental problems due to poor discipline, broken families, physical violence, verbal abuse, sexual violence, peer bullying, favoritism, stress caused by excessive emphasis on academic achievement, etc. Please stay tuned for updates.
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為曾忽略子女心靈需要禱告(下)
這一篇將以詩篇103篇，祝福曾被父母忽略心靈需要的孩子。使用這一篇禱文之前，建議先用為曾忽略子女心靈需要禱告(上) 為自己禱告。如你有聖經，歡迎打開詩篇103篇，與本禱文並讀。
祝福心靈需要曾被忽略的孩子：
親愛的天父：
我的心哪，你要稱頌耶和華！我的理智、我的情感、我的靈性、我的意志，都要稱頌祂的聖名！不可忘記祂的一切恩惠！我願我的孩子，他/她 的理智、情感、靈性、意志，在他/她 成長的過程裡，都一一甦醒過來，接受上主豐富的恩惠！
我孩子心靈痛楚而不懂表達，造成行為問題或性格偏差，或曾令大人感到抗拒，常予否定，甚或加以責罰，致使他/她 以更強烈的方法抗衡，成為惡性循環。主啊，即或他/她 出言不遜，或行為不潔，縱然作父母的也未必能完全接受和包容，我知道祢深有憐憫，祢必寬恕他/她。求祢觸撫他/她 背後所隱藏的傷口，醫治他/她 心底的創傷。他/她 的心靈，現在可能是纏結的/ 不容易信任人的/ 對抗性的/ 混沌的/ 無助的/ 偽裝的/ 苦毒的/ 焦慮的/ 恐懼的/ 憤怒的/ 壓抑的，祢必救贖他/她 脫離心靈的黑暗，祢把祢的仁愛和慈悲，像鑲滿寶石的冠冕一樣，戴在他/她 的頭上。求祢為他/她 預備他/她 這段路程所需要的一切資源，包括愛護他/她 的、可信賴的、能幫助他/她 的人。(但願我也是其中一員。)
主啊，我知道每個孩子的成長任務，都有特定的關鍵年齡。或許他/她 已經錯過了那個黃金的階段，或許他/她 在黃金階段正正就受到干擾，令我十分擔心他/她 往後的成長，會不會有什麼不可逆轉的傷害，構成不健全的人格。每想到這裡，我的心就如榨汁一樣絞痛。然而，在神有永遠的生命，這生命不是在我們死後才開始的永生，而是從上帝祢觸摸我孩子開始，他/她 就得以分享祢的生命、能量和榮光，是直照向永恆的光。主啊，祢對我孩兒的創造仍未有一天止息，他/她 活著的一天，都要接受上主的陶造，猶如重新再生一樣。我要以我作為父親/母親的權柄，奉耶穌基督的名，要讓神進入他/她 的生命，讓神去掌管、更新、轉化、帶領我孩兒的成長，他/她 要在主的眷顧下，茁壯、堅強、穩固地成長，並且他/她 的生命將要成為別人的祝福。
詩篇又說：「耶和華施行公義，為一切受屈的人伸冤。」求祢按公義待我孩兒。我將審判的權力交回給祢。我或有自責、歉疚，但我不再審判自己 ，請祢指教我所該行的。或有他人傷害了我的孩子，求主判斷，並予以公平處置。倘若這傷害他/她 的人，是我所親愛的人(如丈夫/妻子、男/女朋友、兒子/女兒、親屬等)，我更求主憐憫。若是誰有當負的責任，求主幫助我放手，不再為了過度保護施害者而讓我孩子受屈，承受二度、三度的傷害，陷入被輕視和離棄的心靈捆鎖之中。
主啊，過往我孩兒的心靈需要或創傷，曾被至親的父/母 所忽略，長久的孤單、委屈和失望，或許已令他/她 生成了自我懷疑，與及諸如「我不值得被愛」、「沒有人真正愛我」、「這世上沒有可信任的人」、「誰大誰惡誰正確」、「我要做最好最乖最強的人才能賺取別人的愛」、____________________等等的自我對話。我的神啊！我奉主耶穌基督的名，叫這些謊言離開他/她！求祢以天國的法則開他/她 的心竅 (請參另文《信耶穌好像改換國籍？》)，讓他/她 重新曉得祢的愛：祢有憐憫，有恩典，不輕易發怒，且有豐盛的慈愛。祢不長久責備，也不永遠懷怒。即或我們有過錯，祢不按我們的罪過待我們。天離地何等的高，祢對我孩兒_______ (名字)的慈愛就有多大！東離西有多遠，祢叫我孩兒________ 的過犯離他/她 也有多遠！即或作父母的，不懂得怎樣以完全的愛去待他/她，但祢就是如此的按祢的完全來憐恤我的孩子！
祢知道我孩子__________(名字) 的本相，按他/她 的本相來愛他/她。不管他/她 呈現出來，是討喜還是討厭，可愛還是磨人，祢的心腸直透他/她 生命的內蘊，祢知道他/她 內心的脆弱，和許多他/她 自己也無法言說的千頭萬緒，並視之為寶為尊。
在世上的愛，許多是短暫的，甚或是父母，也會有枯竭，或愛莫能助的時候。可是在永生神手裡，卻有永恆的把握。即或他/她 因為過往的經歷，而無法感受到天父的慈愛與公義，感到上帝離他/她 很遠、很不真實，但上帝的慈愛和信實總不離開他/她。求聖靈引導他/她 認識上帝，並飽飽經歷神的大愛。
我奉主耶穌基督的名，祝福我的孩子__________(名字)，耶和華的慈愛要歸給他/她，從亙古到永遠。我並要祝福他/她 的子孫後裔，都要在耶和華我神的名下得福。奉主的名我禱求傷痛就止於這一代，他/她 的後代要在上帝的國度裡興盛。我和我的一家，都要稱頌耶和華！
以上禱告，乃奉我主耶穌基督得勝之名而求。阿們。
未來本網站將會提供為孩子各種創傷禱告的禱文，如：疏忽照顧、缺乏陪伴、管教不善造成的發展問題、破碎家庭、肢體暴力、言語暴力、性暴力、朋輩霸凌、偏心、過度重視學業成就構成的壓力等等，敬請密切留意。
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